Archive | March 2014

A Cure For The “What Ifs” : A Lesson Learned From A Preschooler


“What are we going to do now, mommy?”, asks my sweet , 4 year old daughter, Rachel, as she watches her brother wave from the school bus window as it passes by. We have 15 minutes to kill before Pre-K begins. Some mornings we listen to songs on the local gospel station and sing along to the top of our lungs or discuss the scenes outside the minivan windows as we pass the time. I believe Rachel and I set the tone for our day in this moment. The joy and laughter we share is energizing and refreshing. It’s only a two minute drive from our house to the preschool in which Rachel’s mood can change from happy to anxious.  I grip her tiny hand and softly sing to her as I walk her to her classroom. As we near the door she becomes anxious and walks slower. I anticipate the question on her mind. “Who’s picking me up today? You or Daddy?” she says.  I calmly reassure her that one of us will return for her. The look in her eye conveys a message of doubt. I hug Rachel tightly and kiss her forehead wishing her a good day. As I turn to leave she follows me and stands in the doorway still uncertain of my return. I look her in the eyes and say, “You’re going to have a good day and you’re going to be okay.” Walking up the hallway I know she’s standing in the doorway watching me leave when I hear the Holy Spirit say to me, “You’re going to be okay.” This powerful declaration is one that many believers long to hear.  When facing the trials and tests of life we too can behave as children seeking the reassurance of our Savior that we’re going to be okay.

How many times in life are you surrounded by uncertain circumstances and feel unsure of the outcome?  How many times do you allow the “what ifs” to creep into your head breeding thoughts laced with fear, abandonment, and despair? When you focus on your problems in this way, you open the door for the Enemy to infiltrate your thoughts with exaggerated imaginations of scenarios that are unlikely to occur. These stressful thoughts can cause headaches, nausea, and even panic attacks. Fear of the unknown can paralyze you and envelope you like a python snake, slowly squeezing the life from you.

John 10:10 declares, “The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.” It’s empowering to know that Jesus promises us an abundant life filled with peace. You don’t have to worry about the “what ifs.”  “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths”, is the instruction given in Proverbs 3:5-6. The cure for the “what ifs” lies in trusting God’s promises and His timing. He promise is to never leave you.

When hopelessness and doubt overwhelm you pray and speak God’s Word with authority. Philippians 4:6-7 says, “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God;  and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” You’re going to be okay. Let your faith in God be greater than your fear of the “what ifs.” “Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things” (Philippians 4:8). Refocus your thoughts for as you do the cry of the “what ifs” will grow silent and the voice of the Holy Spirit will magnify as He speaks these comforting words to you, “ You’re going to be okay.”
-Kilra Williams