Archive | May 2014

Pity, You’re Not Invited To My Party!


As June, the month of graduations, summer vacations, and cook-outs nears you are suddenly reminded that half of the year has passed.  Your mind slowly wanders back to the beginning of the year. Filled with excitement you created numerous resolutions and plans to accomplish this year. Regretfully, you realize your deadlines have come and gone with nothing having been accomplished. Failure to secure your dream job or an acceptance letter from your first choice college has proved discouraging. Abruptly, you have become overwhelmed with feelings of depression and despair.

Disappointments in life can shatter the perception of who you think you are and call into question the value placed on achieving specific goals. It can be tempting to evaluate those disappointments and distribute blame for the failure to obtain them or worse, allow the setbacks to throw a pity party.  Pity parties are notorious celebrations of regrets, self-doubt, and hopelessness.

Don’t fall victim to the “woe is me” mentality. As you focus more intently on them, disappointments increase in weight, suffocating your joy and crushing your peace of mind. Choose instead to direct your attention to the One who created you with immense purpose and a bright future (Jeremiah 29:11). Silence found through reflection can evoke an inward examination of your motives. Examine the plans you made and determine if they are in accordance with God’s plan. Allow God to show you the situation from His unique point of view (Isaiah 55:8-9). Prayer will reveal the answers you are searching for. Grant the Holy Spirit the opportunity to guide you as you read the Bible. The plans God has for your life are far greater than any plans you could ever make for yourself (Proverbs 19:21).

Celebrate life’s disappointments knowing that although it may not seem like it, they’re working for your good (Romans 8:28). Praise God for the opportunity to trust His plan for your life when you feel like success is continually just beyond your reach. Don’t let pity crash your party! Kick him out like a bad houseguest that’s overstayed his welcome.

Father, open our eyes to see the value You’ve place on our lives. Help us not to measure our worth by the world’s standards. Teach us to trust You more in disappointing situations. Help us to be confident for we are unique designs created in Your image with incredible purpose. Remind us of this when we feel like we’ve failed or don’t measure up. Help us to trust Your plans for our lives when everything around us seems to oppose them. Give us courage to obey You when we don’t understand and to not trust our own human understanding. Let us to rest in Your peace when things seem uncertain for no situation or circumstance we encounter is a surprise to You. We trust You to give us direction. We praise you for every opportunity to trust You more as You reveal more of Your plan for our lives through them. Allow Your Word and Holy Spirit to guide us in our decision making. May the life we live bring You glory and be a reflection of Your love for us to our family, friends, and co-workers. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

-Kilra Williams

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11 NIV

“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,”declares the Lord. As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.” Isaiah 55:8-9 NIV

“Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails.” Proverbs 19:21 NIV

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.” Romans 8:28 NIV